Can audiobooks to replace the live reading together with the child, why in the lessons the children “beast” and fight the lines, what is randomness, and why it matters – continuing the conversation with the child psychologist, head of the Center of the Family unit in the Martha and Mary Convent of Mercy Anastasia Pelachyk.
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A duck, a rooster, a stork and a blotch on the head
It is the child with the school program and is it difficult it will be to learn all of eleven years depends on intelligence, in your opinion. Intelligence can be measured? What role intelligence plays in school readiness?
– Intelligence is not about knowledge and skills. Intelligence – it is about quality.
With age, the child’s changing communication device and transmission of information in the brain. The child’s intellect is fundamentally different than that of an adult. Children are not small, not unfinished adults, not those who know little, and now we fill them more information and make the world a better place. They really other people, they are arranged differently, the process of thinking. In children, intelligence is situational. Adults – conceptual.
– How is it possible to notice?
In the School of adoptive parents, I often offer the audience a simple test. Draw three white birds (goose, chicken, stork), one red (the duck) and offer to remove the excess. People are starting to talk, always offering plenty of options, adding that there’s no right answer. Adults know how to group the objects to rank phenomena, to separate the essential from the nonessential and generally people being self-centered, because it divides all the useful and useless. From a stork in my test no good, but the rest can be eaten. So ready for school a child to the question “who is superfluous?” say about the stork.
A small child will emit red figure, because bright is another object and provocation. The child clings to the stimulus – sound, image, color that leads him on. Situational thinking is a situation in which the situation owns over man. Conceptual thinking works the other way around. An adult who formed conceptual thinking, to distinguish the essential principle and based on it either divide or unite objects.
– When children move from the situational to the conceptual thinking?
– Usually seven to seven and a half years. The child is a preschooler just learning to separate the essential from the nonessential, is not ready to rank the world on concepts and qualify all around. To go to six years in school – an ordeal for the child. And if the child is an orphan if he survived the trauma of separation and deprivation, 8-9 years, he is not always ready.
My foster child whom I raised from birth, has reached the level of conceptual thinking only to 12 years. I do not exclude that when he was in the womb, he didn’t have enough vitamins for the formation of the brain. Anyway, he’s intellectually reduced man. And that his brothers and sisters happened to the first class, it didn’t happen until middle school.
Of course, we can create the educational conditions, but it is not up to us when the brain Matures. Sometimes it is very late.
If the child situational thinking, it’s hard to learn how difficult it is to grasp the essence, to see the terms phenomena and to combine duck with a rooster. But how to combine them if the cock plopped onto the top of the head, and ducks her there?!
Child and not think of that first, second and treat Pets. Externally they are different.
Of course, my son knew that the cock and duck Pets. But as soon as he was faced with a new situation is not said, as then she became his owner. He could not make the right decision based on generalizations.
“Diet” for your brain
– If the intelligence in each child Matures at the time, is it possible with this to do something?
There is a saying: “diet is the best chance”. Products we can’t promote recovery, but can increase the chance of health and prosperity. There is a “diet” for your brain. It allows you to create favorable conditions for the formation of links in it. There are several ways.
First, a child must often talk. But not everyday, and not producing the skills “teeth Brushed? Go clean!”. The child must have to talk about abstract philosophical topics.
– For example?
– Ask question from the series: what are the similarities between a Sparrow and a dumpster between a cat and a fence? To ask to find five common and five different signs. They are both striped, inedible, can scratch, are next to the house creak…
Children, it is important to teach to generalize and to distinguish. Do this when walking home from kindergarten when you rush to the store, stand in traffic. Don’t skimp, ask provocative questions, pay attention to significant and insignificant things. But it should not be trivial: “well, again in order of the seasons and days of the week.” To train is not necessary. Focus on creativity, setting amazing, unexpected, disconcerting, and provocative questions.
The second way is to play with cards. For example, ask the children to group the cards, which depict objects from real life baby: dishes, food, clothes, people… Asking first break of the card 10, then 5, finally, into 2 groups.
A small child probably will put the card with kitchenware to cards with the men. After all, there’s mom, she cooks the food. For you it will be a symptom of situational thinking. The ability to lay on the animate and the inanimate, useful – useless – that’s aerobatics, learn it.
– The third way is?
The intelligence manifested through it. If the problem with it, no matter what is locked inside, because outside it is still not clear. The task of parents to make speech available to a child a tool that will allow him to realize the inner richness outside.
Develop passive and active vocabulary in their children. Not only talk with them, share something, read every day before bedtime. It does not matter favorite fairy tales or “the Count of Monte Cristo” that you wanted to refresh your memory. Just make this a tradition.
If all three summer months you will read before going to sleep even for 15 minutes, you move the intelligence of the child, expanding his vocabulary. The child will know many new words, and thus not only to better understand the teachers, but also to accurately Express their thoughts. And then at school, even if it is something learned, not know or read, he will be able to explain.
My son has a problem with intelligence, but a great vocabulary. When was the last time I went to a parent meeting at the school, expecting nothing biased will not hear (he on all subjects of triples), we were surprised. “It’s a boy, so much potential, kindness and intelligence…”, – I heard from one teacher, then another. Why do they love him? I’ll tell you. Just because he speaks well and says the right and proper things. As a result, the child is comfortable to be in school, and it doesn’t matter what brand in all subjects from Russian to chemistry he threefold.
If I by Walter Scott
– You can certainly substitute reading books with audiobooks?
– Audio books and reading are fundamentally different things. And, both need. In the car I regularly include audiobooks. But it is not a substitute for reading.
When a parent reads to the child himself, included intimate-personal communication, which is important, not information, but relationship.
Neuroscientists conducted research with children under one year and found that these children are able to learn up to a hundred languages. The brain is able to organize an incredible number of links, however with the only condition: if you speak these languages with your child will be a carrier.
The researchers found the activation of certain brain regions when a child was a live native speaker. When included a tape recording of textbooks, there was no response.
For adult children is of paramount importance. Part of the processes in the brain of a child starts in our close presence and physical contact when a child holds your hand, sits on my lap, lying huddled on the sofa. Only then the brain is working on all channels and not only through the informative audio-perception.
Due to the presence of gadgets the modern life of children was very poor. Do you want to include audiobooks, as was the case with records and filmstrips. But this does not exclude daily parental reading, which for children is quickly becoming an important ritual of bedtime.
– And how many years to read?
– My eldest daughter is 19 years old. I still read to children before bed and it just all lie to me on the bed to listen. And I read everything from Donkey Mafia and Russian folk tales, Dumas, and Cooper. Well can’t our children read the adventure classics, which we grew up. They love to read contemporary fiction. So if I by Walter Scott and mark TWAIN, classic literature simply does not take place in their lives.
When the adult reads, he’s not just otarabaeva text, he says. “Bad” mom while reading definitely unexpected and asks stupid questions. It builds in children the habit to concentrate and think.
Sometimes our play is for children murmur of the water. To avoid this, ask: “ what do you think? What does it mean for you? Sorry, scary, fun, funny? And why is that funny?”.
Shared reading is important for education, and to raise the cultural level and for communication and for socialization in school. Adult children also need parental reading, just too shy to admit it. Thus the development of intelligence, we work through reading, questions, conversations. And all the time keep in mind that, unfortunately, not everything depends on us. Physiological maturation of brain structures occurs in each child at the time.
They are “beasts”, swinging on the curtains and fighting with rulers
– To prepare for school in addition to the development of intelligence what else is important?
– I worked in the school psychologist. At the invitation of the children attend a lesson in physics. They wanted me to explain why these lessons they do not like. Imagine, nasty aunt as much as forty minutes standing at the Board and says something uninteresting. And you have to sit, listen and try to remember that. I’m a grown man who knows how to do (who to watch and what to wear, what facial expressions), almost bent in that lesson. Trying to entertain myself, but I was bored.
It is not surprising that children in these classes “beast”, swinging on the curtains and fight with rulers. It is necessary to somehow sustain his life. It is the task of parents to teach arbitrariness. Self-regulation is the ability of a person to do something, even if you don’t want, for a higher purpose. Learning in school is based on arbitrariness. Without it, man could not withstand eleven training.
–But if the child is not formed, then what happens?
– These children begin to offend. Involuntary and immediate child, if he is bored, get up and go to play. What would you do teacher? He starts to slow down, because there are other wards, and the program lesson plan. The only way to quickly slow down baby – to devalue it.
When I was little, the first of September in our class came Alyosha – a hyperactive child is not generated by randomness. He was a late child of elderly parents, loved and pampered who never went into the garden. Soviet children did the whistle, and he could not and did not want. At the end of the longest first day of school the teacher said, “All done. Put all five. Once seen you are real first graders. And you, Alyosha, I put four. You’re not very well behaved, but we hope that you will mend!”.
She cheapened Alyosha very intelligent. Remember how he sobbed and beat at the hands of my mother, who explained to him that “4” is a good rating. Class, like a scared flock, quickly feels the weakest link and starts to poison him. Alyosha in school to learn not able, the relationship didn’t work, and he left for home schooling.
One teacher’s words enough to break all the possibility of the child’s adaptation to school. And the teacher says this word, because it’s hard with such children.
So our task is to develop the children’s self-regulation that he (for good reasons, or in order to please the teacher, make friends with classmates) to do what is the condition of being in school.
– And how is randomness?
The leading activity of preschool children – role-playing game. It means to teach arbitrariness through games with rules.
The first thing to teach table, the second – yard games where there are rigid roles and rules. For example, hide and seek, in which you need to count to ten, stand with your eyes closed. Or “stick-smokelocke”, “para-expression-for-yourself”. The base is in a certain place, not where you wanted to, the words you should say certain.
It seemed rushed, especially because small children are always involuntary – want closed my eyes, I want no, I tapped the base of the hand, want forgotten. And other adults and children are given feedback, “you can’t, you’re peeping, you’re no one to play hide and seek will not.”
In this game the child learns to act according to the rules. In a Board game – go by the rules, to open only those cards that can and want to. Playing with the child, explaining the algorithm, not allowing them to cheat, we are shaping the child’s self-regulation.
First we wait for the inevitable resentment, disappointment and tears. The child needs to be given to win, to give in some time. But very soon it is important to give experience of loss, to show who is smarter than, faster, closer and smarter. This is normal. The child must be the first and the second experience.
While children play, saved not only the close relationship and significance of the adult, we are preparing the child for school.
– Is there a more rewarding game, less useful?
– All Board games teach self-control over immediate desires. Many of them work on attention, visual and auditory memory, imagination, that is, create optimal conditions for the development of intelligence.
It is necessary to play that the child get worse and with the channel which is less developed. If problems with visual memory, to play in the “foreign languages”, if the inability to match the image with a real image– buy “Barabashka”, if you have problems with imagination – play “Dixie” and “Imaginarium”, which also develop passive vocabulary.
But there are simple games that provide a good mood and the very randomness, the ability to follow the rules. It’s all a strategy game: “Carcassonne”, “Colonialists”, “Port of Piraeus”, the classic “Monopoly”. Most importantly, they train the ability to win and accept defeat.